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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I got lucky like that. My husband does well financially but more than that, he treats me like a princess. He takes care of all the small unpleasant details in life (from taxes and bills to travel details to taking my car to get serviced. I never do any of that stuff. For instance we’re on a beach vacation and I’m sitting in the house nominally watching the kids watch tv while he breaks down the beach tent and chairs).

I’m the first to admit I got supremely lucky. He’s just a great, kind, hard working guy.
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So where did you compromise? It must be somewhere. No one is perfect.[/quote]

Not sure because I don’t think I did. [b]I got married at 24. No one settles at that age gets or bothers to get married if they’re not madly in love, lol.[/b]

I recently posted on another board about a different topic but anyway it cane up that my DH gets our kids breakfast in the morning during the summer and let’s me sleep in (I’m a SAHM). People were outraged about it which surprised me. To me this is just a small, kind gesture that people who love each other do to be nice.[/quote]

+1 Same here. I have a similar husband.  I got married at 22. If you know what you're looking for (and I did), college is a great time to find a stellar husband.  The other men I dated before my husband went on to become the kinds of husbands OP is describing, so I think I would have ended up with one of these super-husbandy types guys no matter what.

When I married my husband, my friends thought he was boring.  He was the quiet guy with an amazing work ethic (put himself through college and grad school, and this was 10-15 years ago, when college was plenty expensive), didn't party or drink (just wasn't interested in that scene), was thoughtful and kind.

Now that we are in our 30s, my husband has come out of his shell so nicely.  He's social and sweet and really great at what he does.  We have sex most days, sometimes twice on the weekends.  And, financially, things have come together for him.  He will probably be up for partner next year.

All the friends who thought I could do better spent much of their 20s dating guys who I could clearly see (and they should have seen) weren't going to pan out.  They cohabitated, slept around, and now they're still on the shelf at 35 trying to figure out what compromises they're willing to make in order to put it all together.  I wouldn't feel badly for them, but they admit that they're miserable.  They are realizing the time they lost in their prime dating years. [/quote]

Not everyone is husband shopping at 18-22. Some of us actually go to college to figure ourselves out.

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And while you are figuring yourself out, other women went for the MRS and hit jackpot.[/quote]

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