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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I see both sides of this.

SIL2 does seem to be making a mountain out of a molehill. Grownups know that some people  are closer than others.[b] But merited or not, it appears that it was something bothering her and she tried to address it, fairly calmly and privately. OP's reaction was very unkind.[/b] She didn't need to agree, but, handled the right way, this could have been a chance to improve relay with SIL2. Seems like she's regretting not being more social and was (somewhat awkwardly) reaching out to try to clear the air. Or not. Either way, an "we certainly didn't intend for you to interpret things that way. We love you and value you. Had your husband and sister not thrown you a party of course we would have!" would have been a much better response.

I guess I come down on the side of they both overreacted, but OP's overreaction was worse because it was sinply mean and juvenile. So I say OP owes the apology.

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This.  SIL2 confessed to having hurt feelings in private, without calling names or insulting anyone.  OP's response was aggressive and over-the-top.  You don't have to think that SIL2 is right to think that OP reacted very poorly and immaturely.  [/quote]

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