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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]SIL2 may very well be the mean girl here.  Who compares their gifts years and parties that were held years apart?  SIL2 may very well have been poking a stick into the hornets’ nest simply to cause trouble.  It seems that’s how OP felt about it.

OP did end the interaction poorly, but I think OP was also hurt and frustrated by then.  Offer an apology if you feel SIL2 was genuinely hurt or to keep the peace.

In the future OP, don’t give SIL2 any details of interactions with others.  Should've just told her the party was nice and changed the subject.  Only talk about the weather and positive things about SIL2’s family.[/quote]

eh.  Did you read "plausible" scenario in previous post?  SIL2 could have been complaining about her SIL to her DH for years.[/quote]

We really don’t know much about SIL2.  Most people are assuming the best about her.  I don’t think OP was intentionally trying to hurt her SIL2 in any way when discussing the party, but it obviously upset SIL2.  We don’t know how old OP was at the time of SIL2’s party, but who would expect that a younger 20-something, perhaps still in college and without the means at the time, would hold the greatest birthday bash ever and give the best gift ever for a 30-year old’s birthday.  SIL2 may be holding OP responsible for how all of her inlaws have treated her.  If anyone is to blame here, MIL, FIL and her own DH are the ones that should shoulder it — they could’ve stepped up to host a party for SIL2 if it meant so much to her at the time.  As the older of the two, I think SIL2 should’ve known better than to dump all her hurt feelings on her younger SIL.  [/quote]

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