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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]The question is, do you have individual integrity and values apart from the actions of others? Or is it only predicated on the good behavior of others?[/b]

My spouse cheated so I get it. But, in my personal view, I made a commitment, I said the vows, I have a set of values that would mean I never, ever cheat. The actions of DH do not undermine those values.[/quote]

But your actions are impacted by others, you aren’t in a vacuum.  You can say you have integrity values etc, but what if someone does something unethical at work?  You have to make a decision to say nothing and continue to work there, say nothing and leave, say something and risk whatever sh#tstorm comes your way, try to report it anonymously etc.  The good behavior of others would have avoided this predicament but once there you have to deal.  You can have 4 people say they would not engage in x behavior themselves and all 4 choose a different path when someone they know engages in that behavior.

I remember asking one of my close friends why would someone respond to a cheating situation a certain way and she said, understand whatever the response, they are getting something out of it.  It may not be the same choice I would make but we have different back stories and different things we prioritize.
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