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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All this advice for the OP to sit down and firmly plan out how she will and won't support are totally missing the emotional connection she will have with the child as their grandparent.  It's nearly impossible to set and stick to these limits once the baby is here and you all fall in love.  It seems daunting and complicated now, and I'm sure it will be very complicated along the way, but somehow the baby makes it all worth it.  My sister got pregnant in college. My parents were pissed.  They probably threatened to not support her and she did get her own apartment, but once that baby was here, all bets were off.

Tell your daughter you will help her figure it out along the way, to the best of your ability.[/quote]

I'm one of the PP's who said OP needs to sit down with her husband and decide what they're willing to do.  It's not missing the emotional connection -- I'm assuming she'll be willing to do a lot.  Most grandmothers are.  But if she goes back to her daughter and says "Larla, your dad and I will let you live in the basement with the baby, and we'll keep you on our insurance, and dad will put off retirement 5 more years to make this work so you can finish your education" then maybe Larla will have her eyes opened a bit to what she's actually asking of her parents, instead of assuming that love and an absent father and permissive parents will keep the world spinning around her as it always has.[/quote]

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