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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Guy here. I was married ten years. We got divorced, and I tried dating a year into it. I couldn't feel anything. Two years passed and it was more of the same. I'd say it took at least three or four years before I actually felt something romantic or emotional for someone else. He may be telling the truth. It doesn't sound like you want the same thing whether he's lying or not. Do you really want to wait around for him to start feeling stuff or become serious with you out of a sense of obligation? Move on. [/quote]

Op here. So, curious. Did you date and sleep with women even though you didn't feel anything emotionally? Or were you celibate or what?[/quote]

Some yes, some no. The first woman knew up front how I felt. She was coming out of a long relationship herself, so we had a lot of good conversations about having a wall up and the fallout after a breakup. We spent a lot of time together, and she was of the mind that we still had needs whether the feelings were all there or not.

A few after her were very straightforward and wanted to have sex on the first or second date before any normal person would expect romantic feelings or attachment. Some were looking for commitment or were a part of the "the next man I give myself to will be my husband" brigade. I'm always honest and respectful of that even when hormones get the best of them, and they want to pretend to see feelings that aren't there in order to justify it. I have sisters and a daughter, so I strive for good karma. FWBs are too easy to come by for me to screw with someone's heart like that.

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