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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh! This happened to me! 
My step monster is a cold fish. I stayed at "her house" with my young children and visited with her and my father.
My children were very young, my father is super ttpe A and between getting anxious about his behavior and teying to wrangle the kids into their car seats,  and deal with their cranky bickering, i drove off without saying good bye to her.
A few days later i recieved a nasty gram from her telling me how rude i am and how my "last minute visit" was a great source of stress ro my father in his feail condition (this was maybe 10 years ago and he is fine).
Now a few things:
Yes, it was rude.
So was her staying in her bedroom as she knew we were leaving and not coming out to say goodbye, herself.
This happened the year my mother died and was shortly before Christmas.  I recieved the nastygram on Christmas eve when i was especially missing my mom.
Stepmonster has done rhis sort of thing in the past, including leaving my sons birthday party to go shopping without so much as a todaloo.

A nice person would have called son and said, "im sorry i missed you as you were leaving.  I felt hurt that you did not say goodbye. Is everything ok?"

Stepmother does not sound like a nice person and was probably waiting for something like this to happen so she could hold it over grandfather's head and demand no more visits.

Grandfather is an ass to cut off a precious grandchild over a missed goodbye.

I would distance myself from both of them. They sound toxic.[/quote]

^ Lots of projection there! Maybe you should get therapy to deal with your own issues with your dad & his remarriage?[/quote]

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