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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You are one judgemental, self righteous busybody...[/quote]

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Why though?  Seriously.  This is OP, and no need to be defensive.  I have no idea why I feel this way and others don't, and am curious.  Not exactly something I can ask in real life.[/quote]

Ok my honest answer is that my DH has a “big” job. He makes a lot of money, is very senior in his company and works decent hours generally, but if they say get on a plane tomorrow or finish this project, he does.  He loves what he does and is very ambitious. He’d do this whether we were married or not, had kids or not. Some version of this is his dream job. So it’s the constant in our lives that I have to work around and accommodate. It’s easiest for me, a mom of 3, to accommodate it by not working.

Now if I had loved my job? I’d maybe have had more qualms about quitting. But I didn’t. So given the circumstances I have to work around...here we are.

He makes enough money that it really doesn’t matter if I spend the day hanging out by the pool or whatever.

Make sense?[/quote]

This is OP and yes, absolutely, and thanks for your honesty!  Does it not bother you because you know he'd work that way regardless, or because you don't need the money, or what?  [b]I'm actually trying to work out a way to NOT feel bad, especially because my personal net worth is pretty significant and his isn't,[/b] though I know I'm getting jumped all over here.[/quote]

What is wrong with you that compels you to keep bringing this up?  Who cares whose net worth is what?  Why must you keep score?  I'd hate being your husband; you come off as smug AF.

You're basically asking how anyone who doesn't have to work can not work and not feel badly about it.  Well, guess what:  I don't have to work and I choose not to and I feel great about it.  It's awesome.  [/quote]

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