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[quote=Anonymous]Sounds like you were raised MC/UMC in another state, got the big job in Manhattan and could move there and live wherever and however you wanted.

Keep in mind that she was raised likely lower middle class in Harlem her whole life.  Then she suddenly gets this 200k job at 25 and this is likely more money than anyone in her family/social circle has ever seen. Sure she could’ve said – peace, I’m outta here, I’ve had my eye on a new condo downtown for years and now I can afford it so I’m getting the hell out of Spanish harlem.  But reality is unless you’ve grown up in such a community (which I have), I don’t think you can appreciate what that does to your family and social ties.  If you leave like that to go live your big money life, you are essentially losing all the friends you grew up with because they’ll think you’re too good for them and/or they will feel they have nothing to offer you anymore since you’re too sophisticated for them.  And when you see your family/cousins, it’s these constant put downs/refrains of – oh you’re too good for us now; oh you took a cab here – what no subway for you anymore; where did you buy that coat – wow they must’ve been paying you money to burn to drop $500 on a coat.  Some of it is the family being jealous, but a LOT of it is the family being really insecure about being left behind, that you’ll find them not good enough/interesting enough to hang with now that you’re rich and you have richy rich associate friends to hang with now.

It’s WAY different if you are from the Bronx/Harlem/wherever and you make $$$ in NYC because your life choices are in your family’s face – than if you get a $$$$ job in say Atlanta.  In ATL you can go crazy and buy yourself the nicest of everything and sure your family will notice the 1-2x/yr they visit, but you won’t lose your family and friend circle over it because your lifestyle won’t be in their faces causing daily insecurity.[/quote]

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