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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Friendships change over time. Money is just one reason why, though often a big reason. If it's valuable to you, then even though it isn't really fair -- you will avoid the issues she's insecure about -- things; cars; vacations; etc. Like the PPs above, if you want to continue to be friends focus on ideas, events, etc. not who is going where/how cool it would be to live here or drive there because clearly that's hurting her feelings even though you aren't bragging about your OWN trips or commenting on where she should live.[/quote]

OP doesn’t have any ideas. [b]All her conversation in the first post about cars, house, etc. Who wants boring friends?[/b][/quote]

THIS.  I've long had a lot more money than almost everyone I associate with and I never talk about those things.  They're meaningless and boring.[/quote]

OP here -- ok well I don't find architecture and construction boring -- it's my other passion other than the market/business/finance. I think people think I'm sitting around saying -- wow that condo listed for 2.2mil. I'm not. I'm commenting on the actual construction, views, design. Sorry that bores you so.[/quote]

She has a sense of how much these things cost and if you're sitting there complimenting the stunning new building -- in her mind, she may be thinking -- wow she may be ready/looking to buy that kind of condo, and then she proceeds to say it's dumb/unnecessary. Even if you are not looking to buy, even if you can't afford it, she may think that. At some level she knows how much money she walked away from and it may make her insecure enough to be around people who've been making that money for the last decade that she feels the need to talk down anything with monetary value.[/quote]

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