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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think paying per bedroom is usually fine.  My family needs two bedrooms, so we would pay more than smaller families.  There are no single people in our family.

However, my BIL feels that it should also be linked to income and expects us to pay more because we have a higher income.  I don't agree, but we do it anyway for the sake of keeping things happy.  Last year, we paid more and then ended up covering the whole cost for my husband's little sister and her fiancé because they just never paid us back after we reminded them a few times.  Its fine, we can afford it.  But just paying by bedroom sounds heavenly to me.  [/quote]

I am like your BIL (except we are the ones with the higher income), we pay more so that we can all enjoy a nice vacation.  We trade off who gets the better bedroom.[/quote]

It would bother me less if we were being asked to subsidize someone who legitimately couldn’t afford it, but BIL makes north of $200K and lives in a 4500 sq ft house in a relatively low cost area. We do make much more than that and the extra money is easy for us, which is why we pay it without complaint so that the vacation is without conflict, but it privately bothers us that the other members of the family don’t think it’s a problem to expect us to pick up more if the cost. [/quote]

Uh, you are being used.  Of course, it bothers you.[/quote]

The only way I would see this as being fair is if you were insisting on more luxurious accommodations than the rest of the family felt comfortable affording.  Ex:  you want everyone, teenagers included, to have a private bedroom/bath but the rest of the family thinks it's fine to have some shared bedrooms/baths in order to keep the costs down.  If you are the one requiring such an upgraded expense, I could see them saying "Fine.  We're willing to go in even on house A with you,  if you really must insist on the more expensive house B, then you will need to pick up the difference because that's too much for us.  If you then say "No problem, we can afford it!" don't complain about what cheapskates your other family members are.[/quote]

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