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[quote=Anonymous]My husband and I have a lot of similar arguments.  We took a Meyers Briggs test, and he is ENTP, and I am INTP.  So, basically, I work out stuff in my head until I am absolutely convinced of my own ideas.  Meanwhile, he likes to play devils advocate and shoot off ideas.  
He says the same thing that you do:  that I am not good at taking criticism.  This really isn’t true.  I am actually great at taking criticism.  If someone offers a well thought out viewpoint that is different from mine, I wil listen carefully, respond with clarifying questions, and alter my behavior to incorporate the new information.  My ability to take criticism well came up several times from supervisors in my training as a therapist.  
He is great at a lot of things I am terrible at.  He makes friends easily.  He reads social situations well.  He is a great guy.  But he does this where he will shoot down my well thought out ideas with just a passing glance.  And it pisses me off.  I am not being passive aggressive.  Shouting “you do it,” is me being aggressive aggressive because I am so mad.  
 I could see this exact same thing with the chair happening at our house.  It’s kind of eerie how similar the wording is.  I don’t know what to tell you except that these arguments are going to happen.  All you can really do is have some sort of repair.  Some sort of words or gesture that snaps you two back into reality, so the fights don’t go on forever.  You aren’t going to resolve them though.  Because in the moment, you are both 100% convinced that you are correct.  [/quote]

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