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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This happened to my brother. Even though she was the one who cheated and they had 50/50 custody, the judge amended the custody so that she could move with her new husband. Why?  Because the new husband was the breadwinner for her to provide for the kids!  F’d up situation. He had one of the best lawyers in VA as well. My parents even helped pay on the lawyer because the lawyer said he needed to maintain his same lifestyle (not downgrading his residence to a cheaper one to afford lawyer).

What happened to “make it even” is that my brother gets custody every weekend, all summer, and every major holiday on the holiday. And his ex is the one responsible for transporting them back to VA.

Of course what happened when the kids got older is they started missing out on weekend activities with friends and sports, so he’d allow them to skip weekends with him or he’d fly out to see them instead.

Just a horrible unfair situation. Some judges are still so archaeic in their always ruling for the mom. [/quote]

This is exactly what happened to my good friend.

They had an easy, amicable divorce.  Remained friends.  No ill feelings.  50/50 custody.  Was the picture of how life should go during and post-divorce.  Flash forward 3 years and his ex had been remarried for 1 year and the new husband got notice he was being transferred to Pittsburgh.  She gave notice that they were moving and he realized there was no provision in their custody agreement about this situation.  They first had to go through mediation and then when that failed, the judge made the final ruling.  She was allowed to move because the new husband was the main earner and because his work gave the notice that he was being transferred; it wasn't him looking for a new job on his own or something they just decided on their own.  All of that worked in their favor and against my friend.

Just like in your brother's case, the ex and her new husband were 100% responsible for all travel costs to send the kids back to him.  He only got them every other weekend, every summer, and every other holiday, though.  However, like you said above, it got very difficult when the kids were older because they had their own lives and didn't want to leave every other weekend or leave for the whole summer.  My friend went back to court and got it amended again where the ex was responsible for HIS travel costs to come visit the kids on the weekends where they didn't want to leave PA.  You could look into that.          [/quote]

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