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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP how would you feel if your husband went on a trip with his college buddies and hung out all week with married Joe's affair partner?[/quote]

And why would that have ANYTHING to do with her husband. If her husband wants to cheat on her, he will. You do not need a buddy to show you how to cheat on your spouse.[/quote]

It speaks poorly of the character, values and ethics of a person who would happily and quietly vacation with a buddy and hiz/her affair partner.[/quote]

Friend A is not out to OP or others about the affair, except to person C, so I don't think this counts as "happily and quietly" vacationing with friend and affair partner.   I personally would wait and see how the trip goes, were I in OP's shoes. [/quote]

They are bringing their cheater partner along on a group trip and presumably sharing a bedroom with the cheating partner.

The cheater is making it everyone's business from the moment they show up.

This issue needs to be resolved before the trip occurs. People are spending a lot of money. I would be so pissed to show up and realize that I was being made an involuntary participant in something so deceitful and immoral, especially something so expensive and hard to back out of once I arrived.  It is not as if the friends can just hop in a car and go home.[/quote]

OP doesn't know if they will be open or not.  They may not share a bedroom.  All OP has is second-hand info of an affair.    If A was cagey on a call with OP, it's hard to imagine she'll go from that to flaunting an affair in front of all their friends.

I'd go, and if the affair was obvious, I'd tell A that I was not okay with it, and I wouldn't see her again until it was over. [/quote]

I feel that infidelity is a major character flaw and that it damages so many innocent people.

I would be furious if a  "friend" brought her cheating partner along on a group trip, and would not want to be a part of that trip. Period.

OP sounds like there is at least one other friend going who would feel similarly.

The cheater needs to be confronted before the trip occurs so she has the opportunity to do the right thing. Or the friend C needs to be given the heads up so she can change her plans.[/quote]

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