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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP: if I were your husband I'd quit my job, stay home, and vacuum and do laundry once a week.  Sure beats the rat race and the commute up 95 every day.  [/quote]

I never understand why these posters don’t get a job as a nanny for three small children and agree to do all housekeeping, cooking, and laundry for the family.  These types of positions are in very high demand and pay about $30/hr plus OT after 40 hours.  Even more if you agree to be on call 24/7, extremely flexible, and available at the last minute.  If you hate commuting, you could even be a live in!  [/quote]

It's amazing anyone goes to college if you can make $30 an hour as a housekeeper. [/quote]

Years ago I quit my job and did daycare from home when our kids were small. I also did the cooking, cleaning, bills, and everything except yard, and car issues. We never had a argument about any of that. I don't understand OP at all.[/quote]

I don’t understand you at all.  I have a friend like you, and if we go to visit for dinner, she will keep the kids in the kitchen with us while we clean up.  We only hear from her husband if the kids are too loud and interrupting his tv show or his shirts weren’t hung up properly.  It’s her marriage, but I don’t get it.  That would piss me off after about three days:  [/quote]

Sorry to disappoint your distorted view based on my post. Neither one of us watch much tv and we are happily married. My husband is very social. If you choose to stay home it should fall to that spouse to do the household chores. Just common sense whether it's the man or woman.  I was able to run a business, own and manage a rental home, and do all the house stuff including our tax preparation for the accountant. He did most of the kid carpooling and stuff with sports since that wasn't my thing. Marriage is about both agreeing to the division, and being fair. This worked for us both.  OP sounds like she needs to organize better or is lazy.

Early on when I did work outside the home we both did closer to 50/50 household. We did a lot of crock pot meals. Friday was restaurant or take out. You should be able to compromise, but if you keep nagging him that will get old. The only other avenue is to outsource some of it, but that can get expensive.

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I am not the OP, and I don’t nag my husband.  However, it sounds to me like you aren’t giving your husband enough credit for the contributions he made to raising your children.  It is unfair to claim that you “did everything,” when you actually had a kind and supportive spouse.  [/quote]

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