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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I do see this phenomenon. At our local public school there are nearly as many dads at dropoff and pickup as moms, there are lots of dads on the PTA, lots of dads coaching sports and running carpool. At our local private there are no dads evident anywhere except evening events like the auction. [b]Wealthy families seem more likely, in my experience car, to have a single income-earner -- nearly always the dad.[/b][/quote]
My experience is that this is because the really high-paying jobs demand pretty much all of your energy and attention. Two professionals can do extremely well, both with low six-figure jobs and shared domestic responsibilities. High six-figure jobs and seven-figure jobs almost always require so much time that it's really hard to have two of them in the same household. Gender norms, salary discrimination, and the biological realities of pregnancy make it much more likely that couples who started out with 2 careers will "choose" to prioritize the man's career. I also wonder if having grown up being told we can "have it all" makes us more attuned to what we'd be missing on the family side of things if we took the demanding jobs.[/quote]

This: “High six-figure jobs and seven-figure jobs almost always require so much time that it's really hard to have two of them in the same household.” [/quote]

Agreed, yet it’s usually the women who capitulates. Rare unicorn female with a SAHD in this scenario. Never a SAHD with a Harvard law degree who said, hey spin class is easier and I’d like to gossip all day long. I’m gonna worry about this season’s nail polish color, how to outdo Susie at the next gala as a true frenemy, and annoy the shit out of you at work over silly things like napkin colors.

Of course I’ll have a hobby, as say a horrible artist, which everyone in my cirrus Siren friend circle will applaud as the next x.

Do men have more time? Do they get an extra 8 hours a day I’m not aware of the Eddie Murphy male gender time machine bus to work? More of a Sarah Silverman  SNL sketch.  Or is it simply true, there are women who cede to male ambition losing their complete identity and independence in the process of preferring to live a 1950’s gender lifestyle.

Send your girls back to home economics. They won’t be reading the Economist. It’s truth. You’re vapid.
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The truth is, things haven't changed that much. It's still much more socially acceptable for women to step out of the workforce than for men to do it. So it's easier and more comfortable. That's why you see more women than men doing it, not that men wouldn't be interested if they thought people would still respect them for it.[/quote]

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