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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think east coast people are really rude. As long as it's not a $200 seated wedding dinner, I say .. "the more, the merrier". I grew up in a family with 8 kids. We always welcomed more. We are Catholic and really believe in sharing.

Reading the thread about immigrants made me sick...so many viscious people here. Why not try to live and let live.

Let the people bring others to a cookout. How much does a burger cost anyway cheapie?[/quote]

NP. I think most East Coast people are rude too, but I'm not sure what that has to do with people bringing extra people that the host didn't invite. That's just rude, period, no matter who does it.

Since you grew up in a family with 8 kids, it's likely that nobody would have noticed an extra few people. For those of us whose houses are more calm and we decided not to have 8 kids because, you know, we don't want a house full of chaos and a ton of kids, we don't always welcome more.

And many of us aren't just serving a cheap burger when we invite guests to our homes. Some of us (at least those of us without 8 kids) have more elaborate and expensive meals. There's a big difference between a cheap burger and a $200 per plate meal. If you only ever do cheap and easy meals, that's fine. But don't assume that everyone is like you and call us cheap because we don't want to open our

homes to the public.[/quote]

Maybe you failed to read that OP mentioned a cookout. You don't spend $200 a person on a cookout. Maybe spend $200 on learning to read. And stop with the number of kid shaming. No one chooses how many kids they grow up with.[/quote]

Maybe you failed to read that the first PP who I was responding to had basically said that anybody should welcome additional people (that they didn't invite) unless it's a $200 dinner. Because otherwise you don't believe in sharing. And that if it's not a $200 dinner then it must be just a cheap burger that you're serving your guests. I was pointing out that there is some middle ground.

Even at a cookout, many people buy things that are more expensive than a "cheap burger". Like steaks, for example, and nice salads and/or gourmet breads, maybe they even get special stuff to cater for people with food allergies. They might not be $200 per person but a lot more expensive than a "just a cheap burger".

And of course someone doesn't choose the number of kids they grow up with, but when you wear it on your sleeve like a badge of honor and want to bring it into a random discussion on an internet forum then it's fair game. Families with 8 kids have generally given up on the idea of a ribeye per person and salads made with special ingredients that take a while to prepare. Most families with lots of kids that I know (or actually all of them, but I realize there might be exceptions somewhere) are more about "here's a bunch of the cheapest food we could find, here it all is, there should be enough for everyone and hopefully some extras if people want more, just sort yourselves out". So it's hardly an appropriate thing to try to generalize to everyone.[/quote]

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