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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Two years ago after 17 years of marriage, I got diagnosed with MS.  I'm exhausted all the time, and I've gained some weight.  I try and eat healthy, but sometimes I just want simple carbs.  I also have to walk with a cane now.  DH has to help me significantly after my treatments.  Our sex life is different, less exciting, and less frequent than before as I have limitations now.  He still loves me as much as the day he married me because we are together in sickness and in health, and I feel the same way.  If you don't have the same level of love and compassion for each other as when you married each other, you need to think long and hard about whether you guys can reclaim that (therapy, communication workshops, etc) OR if you should decouple.

Having seen loved ones go through cancer, ALS, and from my personal experience, I advise people considering marriage that your spouse is now your family.  If in their time of need, you won't help them use the restroom, take a sponge bath, or change their catheter, etc., then you shouldn't be married as that is true love.  I firmly believe marriage should be about true love, and true love does take work and compassion.   [/quote]

That’s LOVE!!![/quote]

It is.  I am very lucky, and I hope all others find such love.  We dated for 8 years prior to marriage, so we've been together for over 25 years now.  I was just telling my niece how love at 21 looks very different than love at 35, 45, 55, 65, 75, 85, 95; and you should know you'll love your spouse the same at all ages even when your situation changes because it will as we all age.  My DH is my best friend, and my true family in this world.  We both communicate this to each other constantly, and we also work very hard to keep our sex life decent with my limitations as that is important in a marriage.   I don't know if people realize love evolves when they get married, and they need to think about how they might have to care for their spouse which is very hard or be cared for which is also hard.[/quote]

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