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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am one of the single high-libido older women. The one constant thread that I have heard from similar friends, is that they do not compromise on the quality of sex in a relationship. It's a deal breaker. We know this is important in our relationships AND DO NOT BEGRUDGE OTHERS WHO DO NOT VALUE IT. We are all fit, attractive, and very successful too, so we have no problem attracting men.

Honestly, many men aren't that good in bed, especially over the long haul, so there is a constant one-sided push to keep things interesting. I often get stereotyped too, for being interested in and knowledgeable about sex. Men think that since you are "good" you must have many miles on you and this is the furthest thing from the truth. I was celibate for at least 10 years, so most married women will have more "miles" of their particular model than me. I am also very particular about my partners, so most won't make the "cut." I know I know that if I get into a relationship with someone who doesn't value sex, that I will not be happy.

Because our society has such negative connotations of women and sex, think slut shaming, it is actually very difficult to be a high-libido woman in America.

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Anyone ever tell you that you lack self-esteem?[/quote]

Why do you say that?[/quote]

This is classic slut shaming. Women do it to each other when someone doesn't hold the same puritanical notions about sex and gender roles. You have to ignore it.[/quote]
I am not any of those PPs, but i think you are wrong. The original poster (older lady with high libido, never married, 10 years without sex, etc) come here saying that she and her single older friends are high libido and that sex for them is a priority. This implies that for us people that are married (much younger than her in my case) sex is not a priority and my husband should have chosen a better match. She is very wrong. She has no idea that many (most) women that are now married and not supermicrocomputador sex, used to be crazy about sex and that monogamy (kids, living together, etc.) changes things a lot. In my opinion she is not a slut at all, far from it and possibly the opposite. But she does seem inexperienced and has no clue what she is talking about. [/quote]

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