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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you sound pretty self absorbed and oblivious to taking care of a newborn, just like my DH - likely because your wife does most of the childcare?

My opinion is that you should plan on either going alone, or taking the 2 year old with you, but do not expect your wife and infant to go.  If your wife was telling you not to go, I would view that as unreasonable, but not wanting to go herself with a newborn is NOT unreasonable.  I skipped a close family wedding of my DH when our first was a newborn, and I LOVE (adore even) my in-laws, and I'm sure they would have tried to help me.

I am listing some reasons below.  Some you may consider to be TMI, but they are realities after birth that a lot of men just don't realize (and their wives don't mention for a variety of reasons)

1.  IF your baby is born on the due date, baby will only be 6 weeks with no vaccinations.  Taking a baby that young around so many people is not a good idea.

2.  There's no guarantee your wife will give birth on her due date.  Most doctors let you go up to 2 weeks past the due date before suggesting inducing labor.  Your baby could be only 4 weeks old at the time of the wedding.

3.  Your wife could end up with a C-section, which requires a long recovery, and if it's an emergency C, it's even harder to recover from.  It's difficult afterward to even lift the baby up.  I say this as a 2 time C-section mother who both times tried to do too much too soon afterwards, and ended up tearing the incision open and requiring hospital treatment to close it, and the 2nd time I also got a cellulitis infection in it and that was terrible.

4.  If your wife has a natural birth there is a possibility she could sustain a high degree of tearing which requires a longer recovery period.  I don't know from personal experience, but I have a friend who had a 4th degree tear (I think it was?) and just sitting was very uncomfortable for her for a long time.

5.  After giving birth, sometimes the mother gets terrible hemorrhoids that are very uncomfortable and make sitting very uncomfortable.  Mine required treatment.  I couldn't imagine sitting on a plane for hours when they were at their worst, even with my donut pillow.
 
6.  at 6 weeks, a baby needs to be fed so often.  They also cry a LOT.  It is a huge PITA to fly with an infant.  If you can't take into consideration wife's comfort on the flight, at least think of the OTHER PASSENGERS on the flight.  It's no fun for a baby to be screaming the entire flight.

7.  A newborn is prone to crazy poo blowouts.  I barely flew with my newborns because of the hassle, but for one of the times, we had a poo blowout while I was going through security and rushing to make our flight.  It was a nightmare.  Another time, I was flying with my infant on my lap and he had a blowout and poo was everywhere - on me, on him, it went up the back of his onesie and came out by his neck, so was in his hair too.  Do you realize what a pain it is just to change a regular diaper on a plane, let alone a poo explosion??  It stunk up the cabin and I was so horrified and felt so bad for the other passengers.

8.  Newborns may also be prone to projectile vomiting, and it can be a lot and often.  It may even be a medical condition.  If this is the case, do you really want to take said newborn on a plane?

OP, I feel for you, but please take the above scenarios into consideration.  [/quote]

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