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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've had multiple miscarriages and a still birth - no live births yet.  I am currently pregnant and over 5 months.  I haven't told any family or friends even yet bc I just don't know, and I really don't want any more pity or kid gloves dealings.  Please respect that your SIL might be dealing with something that you don't know about, and maybe she doesn't want family to know for whatever reason.   She is obviously going through something (prior miscarriages, scan showed something, marriage problems, or other issues), so if you love her like family, show your love through respecting her.  [/quote]

But when you make the announcement would it be via text in response to a discussion about a bbq?[/quote]

No, but I could see my DH doing something foolish like that considering he texted something similar when I pregnant a second time.  He texted something to his cousin that we couldn't use the Redskins tickets bc I had really bad morning sickness which outed me to the family and we hadn't yet told anyone.  I had family at my door by the end of the week and it was awful having to explain to my MIL who I don't feel close to why I hadn't told her about either pregnancy bc I just didn't want to and needed to process things on my own time (yes I'm in therapy).  She got mad at us, and it was just awful for a while.  DH learned not to announce by mistake anymore.

We did tell family at 7 months for the case that ended in our still birth, and after that our families have been respectful as they saw the pain and probably experienced it themselves.  Especially telling them that that was our 5th loss.

OP's brother made a mistake, and OP's SIL is dealing with something that she might want to deal with alone at this time.  There are introverts and extroverts, and people need different things.  Respect is all anyone asks for.     [/quote]

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