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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I bet they're just 20 weeks pregnant and she's due late September but will be delivering earlier due to issues.

I got pregnant with my first dd and received terrible news at the sixteen week scan. It uncovered pretty severe issues and we didn't think the baby would survive. I didn't want anyone to know and judge me. My mil told me once that she thought most miscarriages were really abortions. At twenty four weeks the heart holes had fixed themselves and we felt safe the baby would make it. Holy shit you'd think I'd committed a crime the way people behaved towards me. Friends and coworkers were angry. I had people decide we weren't happy about being pregnant and didn't want it. Friends were miffed they weren't told sooner. People generally were assholes. My coworkers were the worst. [/quote]

slightly similar story. I was putting off annoucing until the 20 week anatomy scan - my closest friends and one sister only knew. then the anatomy scan turned up an issue that was not resolved until 25 weeks. took me another week or two to get it together to tell my parents and more distant siblings in person. coworkers knew by then, of course. [/quote]

Yeah people don't get it that you can lose babies and that not all is okay after 12 weeks. Most birth defects are found after then. I had a potters syndrome baby who was incompatible with life due to kidneys. It was painful and hard but private between dh and I. I technically had an abortion for my baby who wouldn't have survived outside the womb and I paid out of pocket since insurance wouldn't cover it. Try explaining a 2nd tri abortion to family and friends. Lots of judgement. And we desperately wanted the baby. [/quote]

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