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Reply to "women's invisible labor - anyone had luck getting spouse to take on more of the mental work?"
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[quote=Anonymous]OP, we struggle with this, too. I outsource what we can and assign tasks when possible, and reading through this it appears that "physical" tasks like school pick-up, loading the dishwasher, and lawn mowing have naturally fallen to DH. But the "remembering" tasks all fall to me. I don't see any other way around it. I can and do put "change water filter" in our shared calendar, but I still need to follow up and do it or remind him to do it. He doesn't even remember to get the oil changed in his own car, but he will take both cars if I remind him. I will say that I became a happier person when I accepted this responsibility and then started carving out down time for myself that enables me to recharge. So now I schedule my gym classes, book club, pedicure, so that the family can respect my handful of appointments the same way I accommodate theirs.[/quote]
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