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[quote=Anonymous]OP, this sounds like it's not the first time your DH has deployed and been unavailable.  I would have worked much more of this out WITH HIM before he left.  That way he could manage his parents expectations, have the conversation with them about how you won't be able to visit and how that's unreasonable, but also that you would love help.  ALL OF THAT should have been done by him before he left.  Personally, I'd be really annoyed with HIM for not laying a better ground work for this deployment when there have been issues in the past.

Obviously that ship has sailed.  But if this is something that will happen again, I'd make sure you two work this out when he's home.  Ex: the wedding you were in you had to have known about before he left.  I would have asked him to brooch having his parents come help with the kids that weekend.  It should have been set up before he even left.

In the name of being loving, I'd swallow your annoyance and their passive aggressive "we wish we could see them" comments.  You are justified being annoyed, but now is not the time to make it a big thing.  Extend a specific invitation for a weekend you can handle hosting them.  If they turn it down, you are off the hook.

However, your DH is not off the hook and needs to better manage his family's expectations before he leaves the country again.[/quote]

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