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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Exact same situation here.  DH is on a nine month deployment and in-laws live across the country.  We are happy to FaceTime with them whenever they call but I do not initiate any calls.

It is what it is.  [/quote]

I think that’s weird and unfriendly.[/quote]
I vote you get a pass to be “weird and unfriendly” when your husband is deployed if that makes your life easier. Explain to me again why the onus is on the busy wife/mother? [/quote]

+2. The PP who wrote that it was weird and unfriendly has never had a spouse deployed for months at a time.  This is not "My husband travels for work" - this is month after month after month of a husband who is in a different time zone and generally a war zone - who is not coming home on the weekend.  You have to deal with everything plus the feelings of your kids as well as managing your own loss and fear.  [/quote]

I’m the “weird and unfriendly” PP. My husband has done three year-long tours in conflict zones. I’m still able to manage a relationship with his parents.[/quote]

Then i'm sure you also understand you do what you need to do and everyone has a different situation and coping mechanisms? And that's is not a time for judgment?
I'm introverted and tend to find it less help than work to deal with my ILs.  I'm home with six kids alone and don't want to meet another person's needs.  My ILs have some physical disabilities that make them unable to come in and give me a break.  I don't set up visits while my husband is gone.  Call me weird and unfriendly. [/quote]

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