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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I know that older men and younger trophy wives have existed forever, but I feel that Trump took it to the next level by demonstrating to even conservative, aspirational, and ambitious men that there are absolutely no societal or professional consequences and opprobium any more for dumping a longtime spouse in favor of an affair partner.  If anything Trump shows that such a partner can further and assist in your ambition by making you look younger, or bringing in other professional connections, or simply making you happier with more sex.  It makes me sad to see that wives are considered disposable.  Anecdotally I have seen a rash of divorces, including some Texas friends who have been together since college (now in their 50s), with children, who have moved around the country a lot so that he could advance in his career.  She is beautiful, fun, social, and they always seemed incredibly connected and happy.  But now that he earns many millions each year, he is out of the marriage.  I can tell you several other stories like that one.[/quote]

I don't know why you are connecting this to Trump.  Rich men (and poor men, for that matter) have been doing it for centuries.  There have never been any societal or professional consequences or opprobrium for dumping an older wife for a younger model.  All societal and professional points in such a marriage are attached to the husband so they do not convey. [/quote]

There are costs to the man who marries the younger woman. Often it's not about love for the younger woman, instead wealth and status. Sadly, many of those men believe it's about love. Older women on the other hand could do the same thing, but don't because they seek a partner type relationship.  Those are the differences. [/quote]

Again, the stupid and false idea that younger women just want men's money [b]whereas older women don't.[/b] Bullshit. The [b]most grasping, materialistic female age group is age 30-50. They are obsessed with status and possessions[/b].[/quote]

Perhaps middle-aged women (late 30-60s) [i]appear to you[/i] to be obsessed with material things because as one gets older, and one's youth and beauty (valuable currency, unfortunately) start to fade, you begin to value wearing better clothes, maintaining your hair, face, and body, and looking put together.  In my 20s I could pull my hair back in a messy bun, never pluck my eyebrows, put on no makeup, buy all my clothes at the Gap, and still turn heads on the street 8 times out of 10.  In my late 40s, few heads turn anymore, but at least I can look sophisticated and put together with a little investment.  And by the way, middle aged men do the same thing.  My own DH has completely revamped his clothes, exercise routine, luxury vehicle, and accessories (watch, glasses, ties) in the last five years to great benefit.  It could also be that middle-aged women and men feel that they have worked to earn the material trappings of success and they want to reflect that.  If you don't buy the nice house, the luxury car, the expensive jewelry/accessories, or the designer/bespoke wardrobe in your late 30s and older, then what are you waiting for, death?  Finally, many of these middle-aged wives (or husbands) started out with their spouse when they had nothing to their names but student debt, and they have built their wealth together.  Way back when, the comedienne Joan Rivers (and now I am dating myself) had a bit in which she encouraged wives to go out and buy the handbags, the shoes, and especially the jewelry.  Because as she said, all the money you save your husband now, will be money that his second wife will be happy to spend on herself later.  Do not judge others so harshly, PP, until you get there yourself. [/quote]

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