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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b]Honestly, who cares? [/b]

If you have adequately prepared for the possibility that this could happen to you, both materially and socially, then you will be fine.

Would you really want to be with someone who didn't cherish the family you built together? I know I wouldn't - and I also know that I can have a happy life in a relationship or single. [/quote]

The women (and men) who care are those who are materially, economically impacted by their spouse's adultery and abandonment.  I know many female attorneys and even one female physician of my generation of women (late 40s and older) who gave up nascent and strong careers to make their spouse's ambitions and stellar professional achievements possible by taking care of every minute detail having to do with the children, home management, and all of the logistics and relocation issues (including new schools, activities, friends) associated with multiple geographic career moves.  I recall the man in one of these couples asking his wife, "where is the children's pediatrician located?", when his children were already teens.  Honestly, how are you so engaged in your career that you do not even know where your child's pediatrician is located?  And yet in some of these marriages the stay-at-home wife (or husband) has solely handled all of the domestic duties.

In those type of marriages, the stay-at-home woman (or man) left behind in their mid-40s and beyond, with a professional gap of 15 years or more, is simply not well situated to find employment and develop a career that will sustain them comfortably until their death.  They have effectively missed all of the years of a successful career's development, rise, and economic fruition, and they will never, ever get those prime earning years and professional opportunities back.  That is who cares. [/quote]

I am PP, and I have empathy for those people.

But there is nothing that can be done to stop selfish people unless you want to revert to making divorce illegal or at-fault. Shaming them is not adequate, not least because not everyone will join in on it - it impossible to impose values on enough people to make shaming effective.

So that begs the question - how do you protect yourself from this fate? There are many ways to do so, and everyone should assume this is possible. [/quote]

Keep some of your assets separate before marriage. Make sure you have money somewhere in case of an emergency. If you married someone that cheats you picked a bad person. Move on quickly.  Find out why you picked a lousy person or missed the red flags.  After the divorce 86 the cheating spouse kids or not. Crucial in moving on, and making a positive life.[/quote]

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