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I'm 19:39.

Contrary to popular opinion, yes, there are children who will go into FAILURE TO THRIVE, through not eating enough.

The idea that no child will allow himself to starve is a damageable myth.

My son was in failure to thrive as a toddler, and put on a high calorie diet, and is now again in the 2nd percentile as a tween, which is of great concern to his pediatrician.

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There are FTT kids, but yelling at them to eat is not the solution.   [/quote]
There are indeed kids like this, but not sure if this is OP's kid.

OP, I am/have been in your shoes.  When our kids don't want to eat what's put in front of them, they eat sloooowly, and just a few bites, my DH yells at them.  I, too, get upset at them, but like you, yell less.  We get upset because we don't want them to be picky eaters, and only eat what they like. We want them to learn that sometimes you will be served something you don't like, and you just have to deal with it.

We had a rule where whatever you didn't eat for dinner it was your breakfast or lunch the next day, and you don't get any dessert or treat until that meal is finished.  We don't like to waste food either.  It's happened a few times over the years.  My kids are older than your's now, and while they still at times hem and haw when they are served what they don't like, they will still eat it. The older one has learned to eat whatever he doesn't like first to get it over with.  I have toned it down, but DH still at times gets very stern with our younger one over this. I have told him to stop it because I don't want DC to have an eating disorder later in life.  Just calmly tell your DC that she can have that for breakfast the next day.  Again, if she doesn't have a case of failure to thrive, hopefully she will get the message.

I agree with you.. you shouldn't always just cook your DC's favorite. I try to cook a variety of things.. sometimes my favorite, sometimes one of the kid's favorites, and they both have different favorites. I'm not a short order cook. I don't cook things on demand.     I can make allowances for a 5 year old, but when a 12 year old is over my house for dinner and doesn't like what's for dinner, I'm not making something else for that kid.  Having  a dinner party can be a pia when there are picky eaters.

Your DC is still young, so you will struggle with this. Be patient, and calm (I know.. it's hard. I can say this in hindsight). [/quote]

You have to be a troll too, or just incredibly abusive parent. If you are for real you are creating eating disorders in your kids. You are a terrible parent, and not just garden kind terrible, but insane control freak who is emotionally abusing children.[/quote]
My kids are fine.  Thanks for your concern. When they go to people's homes, they are very polite and try to eat what's put in front of them, unlike many kids I know.   They have also learned to try new things, and broaden their palettes. They eat (and like) things that most kids wouldn't touch. It's great to see them eat such variety of foods.

My DH grew up this way, and has no eating issues.  My mother let me be a picky eater, and I had a really hard time as an adult being picky. It took me a long time to break that habit.  I make my children eat their vegetables. I'm fine if you want to call me abusive for making them eat their vegetables.[/quote]

You are truly insane. Of course, you don't see it, most people can't see their own insanity. [/quote]
Do you cook only foods your kids want?  If not, then you are controlling what your kids eat.

yep, I control what they eat at home in terms of what I cook, they eat. I don't let them raid the pantry if they don't like what I'm cooking for dinner.   When we go out to eat, they can pick whatever they want, but some times, I make them have a bit of salad if they order something devoid of vegetables, like chicken tenders and fries.  Yes, call me abusive for making them eat some vegetables.

I also make them do their chores, make their bed, take out the trash, limit their electronic time, make them go to bed at a time that some people might consider too early, make them do physical activity, learn a musical instrument, do a bit of math at home, etc..  My kids would never do most of these things on their won. So, I guess I'm controlling, abusive and insane.[/quote]

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