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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Not giving any advice or anything but when it comes to male and female relations their is a big disconnect and it's important for each to better understand common perspective and emotions of each side.

Successful men are driven to have multiple sex partners. They have to battle that natural instinct in order to have a organized and peaceful home life.  Under the organized and peaceful home life is a major sexual let down and feeling of inadequacy unless there has been release with a few affairs/hookers or one nighters.  Men can love their wives and family more than anything and not be phased by the affair / hookup in the least.

Women usually don't engage in extramarital sex unless it has a highly emotional bond involved. If a woman cheats, it usually means the marriage is already over and she is literally no longer in love with her spouse. A woman carries this outlook and applies it to her cheating spouse because it is the only thing she knows and cannot fathom a mans perspective and hormones.

Not making any recommendations ... But when making decisions that will gravely effect the quality of life and have extensive ramifications it is VERY important to deal with life the way it actually is as opposed to how you believe it should be.  Once both partners understand what each other deals with they could actually talk about things that would make them very close and honest.

When you think about it.. The whole "boundaries" and unspoken truths relationships people organize their lives with do not lead to closeness. There is a major wall between most spouses and in many ways the whole thing is just a monetary/management partnership with a good bit of fake posturing.[/quote]

What a bunch of bullshit.  How about, be a grown-up and honor your vows to your wife?  This type of pop-cultural justificationlets men off the hook because its somehow “biological” for them to cheat because they are “successful”.  It also infantilizes man — Its ok they just can’t help it, they can’t keep it in their pants because they make a lot of money. [/quote]

+1. I majored in biological anthropology, and these “armchair anthropologists” drive me nuts. Same as people who espouse the paleo diet because they have some romantic notion of what early human behavior was, without ever having read a scientific paper. Females are just as biologically inclined to “cheat” as males are. We’ve just been programmed by culture to have certain beliefs about male and female behavior. Often these beliefs don’t hold up to scientific scrutiny.

It’s fine if you don’t want to be monogamous- just don’t get married- but don’t use BS pop psych “science” to rationalize being a douchebag. [/quote]

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