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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Uggg.  This is such a hard decision.   We are in the midst sid it too.  We have one who is fun and easy-ish.  Our lives are nice and not stressful.

My reasons for wanting another are:

1. We are older parents and it’s not unlikely that we will be gone before our kid finds a partner.  It stresses me out to think we could be gone and she could have no family at all in the world.  I want her to have a sibling, even though I know it’s no guarantee of closeness.

2.  I love love love the baby phase even though it’s exhasuting.  I get lots of leave from work and my job is flexible so  I wasn’t too worried about the exhaustion.   I’m hoping I’ll conrinue to love each phase just as much as I’ve liked baby and toddlerhood so far.   I like parenting more than expected.  We’ve had fun with it as a family and it’s brought us closer as a couple.

Reasons against:

1.  We don’t love chaos.  Our house is pretty quiet and organized.  I worry that two will stress us out, particularly with the fighting between the kids.

2.  With one, our lives are still somewhat adult focused.  With two, I feel like vacations and dinners become about the kids 99% of the time.   With one, it’s more evenly split (eg some of our activities are toddler focused, but we also focus a lot on stuff we like to do).

3.  We don’t need to divide and counquer now.  We get to spend lots of time as a family of three, or, when one of us has the kid, the other takes a break.  Having another will change this, obviously. I worry that we will be two teams of two.

Thoughts?[/quote]

No helpful thoughts, just a comment that you've perfectly articulated my conflicted thinking, too.[/quote]

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