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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So OP still hasn’t address the glaring problem with all the dishonesty. Or if she would be cool with this if her husband did this. [/quote]

OP here -- yes I realize I'm being dishonest. Yet it's the only way I can see to get what I want because unlike what others are saying, I know him enough to know that he'd feel super generous offering me 1 girls weekend a year, not a trip every 3 months. If I'd be ok with him traveling -- yeah; it would even things out actually, but he wouldn't do it. In his mind, once you have a family you travel as a unit or not at all. He begrudgingly accepts my business travel because my work is "making me" doing it, but in his mind he doesn't get voluntary solo travel; that's why he'd feel like 1 girls weekend away was SUCH a generous offer.[/quote]

Because he isn't an immature person. You don't get 4 trips of me time a year when you have little kids unless you have a non-parent willing and able to watch the kids. [/quote]

This. Sounds like he was ok with your business travel (real or made up) before kids came because it was just him and he could manage without you. Now with kids, seems like his mindset has switched to -- kids come first at least most of the time and kids need their mother at least most of the time. So he's ok with your business travel when you HAVE to do it, but wouldn't be ok with 4 personal trips a year because you are taking time away from your kids pretty frequently for what YOU want, while it seems like he isn't doing that. The fact that you think he'd offer you a weekend away means he does recognize the need for a break, but he thinks kids come first MOST of the time -- so that 1 weekend should be enough. He has made that shift with parenting and you haven't and want to do what you've always done.[/quote]

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