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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She supported you, per your own admission. It is your turn now. It isn't easy to re-establish a career after you are out of the workforce for several years.[/quote]

This is such crap. If the DW were the one typing this you'd all tell him to get himself home for dinner at least 4 nights a week and go back to work after the kids are in bed if he has more work to do on those nights. And you'd tell the DW to stop doing all the house stuff for him and talk to him about how he needs to find some time just like she does to help him pick up some of the slack. You would all rally behind her and say how she needs to remind him that having two incomes means you both pitch in equally, etc. This is just utter crap.[/quote

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Different poster, and maybe you are right if it weren't for this paragraph:
"To be fair, s[b]he stayed home for 7 years after we had our first child [/b]and supported me through my career [b]which directly allowed me to put all my energy into my work.[/b] I know she is trying to make up for "lost" time and I don't mind that she works but getting home at 8pm or later everyday does not a happy home make. That said, she really loves what she does and it shows. She pours her heart and soul into her work and that leaves very little for us at home. What is leftover goes to the kids. I[b] get the scraps which is to say, I don't get no lovin.[/b]"

1. She is doing what he did--pouring all her energy into works and 2. He is resentful that he doesn't have a built in maid and nanny for his kids and he now has to do the work he missed out on previously. and 3. They have sex once a week, he said, so he is not getting none.

What this poster is doing is wrapping his resentment and double standard up in pretty writing and a nice package: I do all the work, I make most of the money, look at my thoughtful responses,blah blah Right under that packaging about sex, communication, and family dinners, is the truth and real problem, though: he wants things the way they used to be when his wife wasn't working.

He doesn't want to fix the current problem; he wants a time machine.
And ps. Get the au pair. I wouldn't worry that some attractive, young lady is dying to jump all over your jock and take over this mess.[/quote]

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