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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Keep packing and tell him he has until the end of next week. But the fact that he is essentially having to push her out, and he's the one trying to find her a job, rather than her trying to find her own job, just means you have an ongoing battle on your hands. She's going to constantly try to push those boundaries and try to get back to that comfort zone where her dad is taking care of her and you guys watch the kids while she does her own thing. And you will become the bad guy, if you aren't already.[/quote]

I agree.  And, to paraphrase a PP, past performance is the best indicator of future performance.  There are too many things that can go wrong that will land the DD right back at her dad's feet.[b]  What if by the end of the 6 months she doesn't have a job that pays the bills?  What happens if she doesn't have childcare? You don't have to break up with your BF but having your own place gives you a lot more options and flexibility. [/quote]

I want to be an optimist.  But I think the patterns are set with your BF and his daughter.  She knows she has the safety net of dad’s money and somewhere she got the idea that either the world owes her something or her dad does. The fact that she was salty about him “only” getting her a one bedroom, that she would think it was okay to dump her kids on you, that she isn’t the one primarily driving her job search ...I don’t think six months will change that.   My mom did have me young and dropped out of college but she always worked, she was looking for ways to improve her job options and provide for her family, and she took classses here and there to eventually finish her degree.  [/quote]

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