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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There sure are a lot of women posting here with husbands who supposedly have ADHD, and their wives are in a perpetual state of exasperation.

I find it difficult to believe that all of these otherwise successful men are somehow barely able to function as adults. Is it possible that some people just have unrealistic expectations?

A wise person once explained to me that if you look closely at any successful business, you will notice that under the hood, when you observe how people and departments interact with each other, even a good business seems wildly dysfunctional. It's only when you "zoom out" a bit and focus more on the longer-term trajectory that matters. I think people and families are like this as well. You are an aggressively scrutinizing someone, they are going to seem sloppy and disorganized because most people are constantly making mistakes and making adjustments.[/quote]

Lots of ADHD people can focus well at work, especially if they are ambitious or passionate about what they do. They just fall apart when they get home. Or when they get older and have more responsibilities like children, a house, eldercare, etc. In their 20s, ADHD is easy to hide or downplay because most people don't have responsibilities beyond work. [/quote]

The smartest men I know are an absolute disaster at home, the wife does everything , and then some.  From the outside, these husbands might look perfect, but honestly, I have no idea how these women keep it together above and beyond, like they do.  The women in these situations are amazing, and not all women are as capable - but then again, that is probably what attracted these guys in the first place.  The guys likely knew they were/are a handful (even if they knew at a subconscious level), and the women exceed at what they do, so it works - otherwise, with any other woman, forget it. [/quote]

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