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I am half European and half Asian. [b]When i was a child, my European mother's family used to consider it the height of rudeness to remove shoes, but our close relatives got used to it. [/b]We never asked it of our older, more conservative family members.

I would hope that now it's a more accepted lifestyle. I married into an Asian family and we always politely request that guests remove their shoes, except for large indoor-outdoor parties where everyone stays in their shoes and we mop up afterward.

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What?  The Europeans I know and visit regularly (both in the U.S. and in Europe) ALWAYS remove their shoes in the house.  [/quote]

Please read my post.

This was not the case a few decades ago, and older generations still don't like it.

And having lived in various European countries most of my life (France, UK and Germany), I think I know more Europeans than you.

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Doubtful.  I don't know what kind of Europeans you hang out with, but they must not have very good manners.  Most Europeans with nice, big homes are strictly shoes off. 
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NP here.  I'm a European, married to one.  We don't have guests remove shoes in the house, because it is considered rude.  It has nothing to do with "nice, big homes", but if you feel that is a measuring stick, we both come from quite educated and well off families in two different countries.  Children are asked to remove shoes, not adults--although close friends may, and are given house slippers.  I'm German, FWIW, and my husband is Danish.  We have also lived in France and the UK, and he has lived in Spain.

I lived in Japan as a child were removing one's shoes was obviously the norm.  Nowhere else, though, in my experience.

It would strike me as extremely rude here in the US to request that an adult remove their shoes, unless you know them very well.  [b]I would likely just politely refuse to enter[/b], depending on the situation.[/quote]

Hrm. How would you refuse to enter, politely? No snark, seriously curious. "Sorry, Judy, since you're a shoe-free household, and I refuse to remove my shoes, I'll just sit out this party?"   :oops: 
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