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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I relate completely to this, and think that you are being given a hard time.

Personally, I hate how I feel about my “work spouse”. We have an undeniable chemistry, and I think about him often, despite the acute knowledge that these thoughts are inappropriate. I truly do not want to think about him or have feelings for him.

We have worked together for many years in the legal field (i.e. a decade), and back in August were assigned to a project requiring significant man hours. Ultimately, we spent many hours together on the shared case, and ended up spending crappy late night dinners (so much Chinese food) in a dark conference room. While we focused primarily on our assigned case, by nature our conversation turned to our respective relationships, friendships, future and career goals. Without significant effort, he became a close friend and confidant.

Within a few months my husband and I separated after learning of my husband’s affair (the affair predated the work assignment by several months). During my separation, I leaned heavily on my coworker who had become a close friend. I truly can’t pinpoint when precisely I recongnized that my feelings had become more than just that of friends. There wasn’t any specific moment, or inappropriate interaction. Rather, I found myself looking forward to getting into the office to see him.  Similarly, he sought me oout, and was (and is) a constant presence. We have both, albeit indirectly, addressed the chemistry and mutual desire.

Here we are now, several months later. We have been placed together on several additional cases as our partnership was deemed quite successful. We see each other daily, and work together for several hours throughout the day. While we both (perhaps ironically) recognize that we’d be awful in a relationship, we have an undeniably intense sexual desire for one another.  I would never want to break up his marriage, or even be with him, but I fantasize far too often about sex with him. Point being, OP, I get how hard it is. I was cheated on by my husband (and remember how shitty that felt!), and yet I find myself constantly fantasizing about a married man, wishing that I wouldn’t.  I get how confusing it may feel.[/quote]

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