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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP needs to widen her circle, and maybe she'd see that this behavior is normal for immigrants. At home, many people go to extra effort to recreate home (their native country). Babies and little kids have this strong influence--the food, the language, the culture and habits--and it's all they know until they go off to school. Once they're in school they rapidly absorb American culture. [/quote]

Except none of this actually applies if you're British.  So the BIL is simply inventing stuff to feel superior to the heathens amid which he voluntarily (I imagine) chose to live. [/quote]

That chip on your shoulder may be getting in the way of you understanding that there are cultural differences between countries that have the same language, and even between different areas of one country.

When people move to another place, they usually like to hold onto and show their children various aspects of their native culture/region.

I've lived in the UK and in Texas, as well as many other parts of the world and the US, and I and others in my immediate family have married into other cultures. Some people are all about assimilation, but many hold on tightly to their original regional ways. It's human nature, not an affront to you and your particular culture. Get over it.[/quote]

Ha! I'm an immigrant married to another immigrant. Our native languages aren't English.  Our customs are different.  Actually different, not pretend-different like UK vs. the US. [/quote]

If you're an immigrant perhaps you are unable to see the differences between American and British customs and culture. There are plenty. [/quote]

No, I know they exist, I went to school in the UK and go to London for work regularly.  I just don't think they are THAT different, and plus they are very class dependent.  To claim that differentiation to the degree OP describes is not only pretentious, it would be frowned upon by most reasonable Brits.  It is nowhere close to what is necessary to maintain language and customs that are ACTUALLY different.[/quote]

If you actually were British and had also lived in the US (i am and have) you would realize that despite what is at first glance a common language (but actually very different) there are HUGE cultural differences between the two countries, as there are with ANY two countries. To say that there aren't is ignorant.[/quote]

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