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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here. The other difference between these guys and the guys before is that these guys are divorced. Because of my age, that's most of my available dating pool. Guys were divorced between 3 months, a year, and 3 years. Is this a "divorced guy" thing? It's like they feel entitled to my body without putting in the effort needed when dating and building a relationship. [/quote]
I more suspect these divorced guys have emerged from a marriage where the wife lost all interest in sex which is obviously a disincentive for sexually exclusivity. Given that non-married men have so many sexual options, far more than they ever experienced back before marriage, it is understandable why some might not rush back into a sexual exclusive commitment.[/quote]

Op here. This is depressing. Are these men frequently successful at getting women to sleep with them with no commitment or promise of exclusivity? I literally have zero friends who are willing to sleep with men without first having a conversation about making sure they're on the same page about not sleeping with other people - for health reasons, if nothing else. Are there a lot of women who are like "sure, I'll sleep with you even though your profile is still up and you may be having sex with others"? And the women truly don't care that the men are sleeping around? I would love to know statistically what's really happening. As opposed to guys on the internet just posting that "yeah this is normal just deal" which I suspect may be them trying to convince women they have to put up with this BS.[/quote]
I don't think there is anything wrong with what you are doing OP, but I'm a woman who doesn't demand exclusivity before sex because I won't know if I want to be exclusive with a guy until after we've had sex- it's part of the decision making process for me. Exclusivity typically follows soon after though. 
I think there is room for everyone to date in a way that works for them without disparaging anyone.[/quote]

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