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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm on the MIL's side. You pay for all your make-up and facials? Good for you. But that's a ridiculous pittance. If your husband is 'young' I'm pretty sure you're the same. I don't get why women deliberate sideline their careers and make crappy wages, then look to the male in the relationship to pay for every single thing like its owed to them. He's picking up 95% of the expenses (bills and utilities) and you're upset because MIL called your lazy ass on it.[/quote]

Agree [/quote]

What OP said: [b]"I do not earn as much as him and I have offered to pitch in multiple times but he says no he’s got it."[/b]

Seriously? The wife is supposed to figure out he has lied to her and is now using his mother to get what he [i]really [/i]wants. Why not just answer truthfully when she asked? To make the marriage more dramatic? 
Sounds like you are projecting. [/quote]

You don't offer to pick up household financials like you're going out to brunch and a friend offered to buy you coffee. The OP is an adult and should know that she should be expected to contribute equally. Of course, when acting like a child gets her out of the obligation she'll act like its okay that he's responsible for everything. [/quote]

I strongly disagree.  I make quite a bit more than DH and he came into our marriage with a lot of debt so I cover most of our living expenses.  He offers regularly to pay for things and I, as an adult should, USE MY WORDS and let him know when I need him to cover things I have traditionally paid for.

OP and her husband came up with a system for who pays for what.  Is it a system you would choose?  Maybe not, but they came up with it and he has told her he's fine with it.  If he's not, he needs to put on his big kid pants and talk to his wife about it, not go run to mommy and complain like it's some kindergarten playdate going south.  [/quote]
+ 1 if he's old enough to be married and hold down a job, presumably he's old enough to speak for himself.
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