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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It was creepy.  Your mistake was saying anything beyond

"What a surprise! make yourself at home, but I have to get back to work now.  I'll see you later."

Don't let them pick the kids up early. Just leave them as if they weren't there.  Don't reward this.

Changing the locks is expensive, so I wouldn't do it so fast.  At dinner, after the work day, you and your husband ask them point blank why they showed up so early and ask them not to do so without calling ahead.[/quote]

TBH, I know I seemed stunned, because I was--and I have no poker face. I think they felt awkward as I stopped working to rush to finish the guest room while they got some tea. I also immediately went back to work, and turned down the daycare pickup offer (I did explain about not wanting to interrupt nap, but maybe later).

I'm sure DH will talk to them later, but I want to get on the same page with him first about what he'll say. I just feel very awkward about this visit now, which is a shame, because we usually get on very well.[/quote]

Well, if you usually get along very well, then... "Hey mom, we're really happy you are here and you are always welcome, but please call ahead with a "heads up" if you are going to be early like this.  Telecommuting is still working, so Darla really counts on not being interrupted."

They probably didn't realize that picking up the kids early isn't helpful but a hindrance.[/quote]

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