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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous[b]]If you are not great friends with your spouse it's hard to imagine not having a dead bedroom. [/b]My DH and I have been married over 30 years and we really like being together even though we have many separate interests and we appreciate each others interests. If we weren't great friends I'm sure my libido would be running on cool. Before DH I never had sex for sex's sake it was because I really liked the guy. There is no doubt sex with the same person for 30 years can get to be predictable but we mix things up enough to make it fun. Last night he was lying in bed watching Colbert's monologue and I came in climbed up and straddled him and said "how about our own late show?"
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Huh? I think the friendship element is part of what causes a lack of desire, at least for me. I find tension, mystery, novelty, the forbidden, etc. desirable. None of that is present in my long monogamous relationship with my husband who is my best friend and a great father to my three children.

I think "aww" aren't I lucky when I see him doing chores around the house or playing with the kids. But it doesn't make me want to f*ck him. That theory has never made sense to me. Seeing someone do the laundry is not sexy, though it's nice.[/quote]

If you need tension, mystery, novelty, the forbidden to get excited what do you do for sexual relief? Troll bars?[/quote]

I'm guessing she does what the guys do -- hardcore pornography and masturbation. [/quote]

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