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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP:

Just to chime in, you will find life is long. I've finished raising my brood, and if I had to go back in time, I would be less reactive to things like this. As long as you don't feel your MIL is deliberately trying to undermine you, let her be called Mama X (I didn't read the whole thread, but was her grandma called Mama X too? That makes a difference).

The other thing is -- it is hard to think of this right now -- this baby really is not just yours. It is a person who will have his/her own relationships. And you will be thankful for all the people who love your child and are part of his/her loving community. [b]So let your MIL love your child and be called what she wants to be called.[/b]

Just my two cents,

Older and wiser[/quote]

You know what, it's absolutely possible to let a MIL love her grandchild and still set boundaries on ridiculous behavior and safety issues.  I speak from experience here.  In fact, I don't think the relationship I enjoy with my MIL today would be as good if we hadn't spoken up about some things.

In fact, PP, you're getting to the age of grandparenthood, it sounds like, so consider that your advice might be coming from your own feelings about that, rather than just hindsight. [/quote]

The name situation doesn't even come anywhere close to a safety issue, which is why it's petty and OP WILL regret making this a big deal and will look like a controlling biotch over it.[/quote]

Let me explain to you.  The kind of grandmother who would dictate that she be called "Mama" and then put up a big fuss if the real Mama says no, is also the kind of grandmother who will put the baby to sleep on its stomach, put a blanket in the crib with the newborn because she feels "cold," harass the mom about breastfeeding too much/not breastfeeding, give continuous "advice" to a post-partum mother ... and so on.  [/quote]

I don't need you to explain anything to me.  First off, MIL is not asking for the baby to call her ONLY Mama.  Secondly, you're painting with a very broad brush assuming that because someone asked to be called a specific name as a grandmother that she'd also disregard safety measures.  That's ridiculous.[/quote]

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