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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do you actually know if your brother called to complain to your father?  Because your Dad may have asked him what his plans were for the holidays and he may have told your Dad what was going on as an explanantion, not a complaint.  Dad, in response, and of his own volition, may have taken on his Dad role again and tried to get you back in line.

If you don’t like hosting your brother, or the holidays for your family, you need to bring it up in the summer and tell your family it’s a problem for you.  And then the whole family needs to come up with new ideas and choose one that works for everyone, or decide together to discontinue the extended family celebration.  Don’t wait until the last minute and then blow up the family tradition or you will be considered the difficult one.

It would have been wiser to have taken the family holiday celebration and your daughter’s delicate temperament into consideration when you were making your long vacation plans. Not sure why you’re so surprised by it all now.

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Yes because my dad called me and yelled at me and then hung up on me. Everyone has known for months that my parents are visiting Jan. 4-14. We always have Christmas at my house. This is not new. No one has ever come before Jan. 5. Ever. We have the same vacation schedule every year for almost a decade. [/quote]

If you and your family have been celebrating Christmas after Jan 5 for the past decade, it is weird for your brother to be insisting that you host him and his family on Jan 2nd.

However, I would, personally, not want to be celebrating Christmas 2 weeks after the fact.  You spend the whole month of December going to holiday parties, performances, etc.  You've had your house decorated since shortly after Thanksgiving.  You've been listening to Christmas music, baking cookies, drinking eggnog for weeks. It's a fun, festive magical time but after January 1, I'm ready to put Christmas stuff away and start enjoying a fresh start to the New Year.  Break is over, everyone goes back to school and work....

Then a week later, you want everyone to shift gears and get back into Christmas mode....ugh.  Maybe this is what your brother is trying to say?

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You don't seem to understand. We celebrate Christmas on January 7 like millions of other Orthodox Christians around the world (Russians, Serbians, etc.). Some Orthodox churches in the US changed to Dec 25 maybe 50 years ago but many have not. This is not weird or odd to us. We have done this our entire lives. [/quote]

I think that your brother might be saying that he wants to do this earlier.  [/quote]

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