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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There is a valid reason that you’ seem to be overlooking, OP — finances.  You said your brother will be a only a 3.5 hour drive away instead of the usual 8 hours from your house this year.  He was probably thinking it would save him time and money to drive to your house and then drive the 8 hours back home vs. what flying over the holidays would cost him and his family.

Although you complain that he’s being domineering, you’re also being bossy right back.  He’s going to be so close to your house, yet you’re insisting that he go home first, then spend his money on airfare to come back.  He’ll miss seeing his parents, miss out on the family holiday, his sister doesn’t care, and you really can’t understand why he’s upset?

Don’t be surprised if he’s less than welcoming to you and your family next Easter.  [/quote]

My brother is loaded. Beyond loaded. Finances are not an issue. He can buy a house outright. In cash.

I did not insist he go home and fly back. I suggested he choose another weekend to come. Even the following weekend when my parents are still here. He is choosing not to come (because in my opinion, he really does not want to). [/quote]

What you suggested is essentially the same thing as far as your brother was concerned.  If money is no object for him then maybe you could have recommended a nice hotel for him to stay at instead and meeting up for dinner one day.

But then, how patriarchal is your religion and your family?  Maybe it’s just that the men expect to be the heads of households and make the important decisions, and your brother doesn’t appreciate your telling him what to do and how to spend his money.

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