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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]LOL. Take away her car! No access to car unless she can use car privleges to help her family. Take away her phone. No phone privleges unless she watches her family after school--that is a family communication tool, not her personal property.[/quote]

This.

I took care of my twin siblings after school every single day. I made them a snack and was required to help them with their homework.

Unlike some of you spolied rotten selfish Americans, I harbor no resentment or ill will.  My parents were working their ass off for me and paid for 4 years at Stanford for me. It was the least I could do. We are a tight family and always always help each other out. It's the values we were raised with.[/quote]

My mother raised three children with minimal help from her mother.  That meant that we got up by ourselves, my sister and I were old enough to cook breakfast, so my brother did the dishes.  We all helped each other with homework;  my brother was perfectly capable of checking my notes to be sure I remembered it correctly, even though I was 4 grades above him.  We had a neighbor girl poke her head in every afternoon until I was 12, then I was technically babysitting if anyone asked questions, but we all knew that we were each responsible for our own chores, homework and babysitting.

Oh, and there was zero chance of driving as a teen for any of us.  If we wanted a car,  we had to be willing to foot the entire process by ourselves,  and without a job first, we couldn't afford it, but we couldn't get jobs without transportation.  My sister got hers after boot camp, I waited until I was 21, just moved where there was plenty of public transportation.

I don't see what the big deal is.  Part of being a family is helping each other.

For what it's worth, yes it was expected in other generations as well, at least in my family.  My great-grandmother had three children in 2.5 years, so her niece moved in for a year to help get the third through the infant stage while my great-grandmother was going to County Normal to get her teaching license.  She had another daughter 12 years later, and my grandmother and uncles got up with her during the night once she was 1.5, did pick up and drop off to the aunt who watched her while they and my great-grandmother were at school, and they had to take her along every time they went anywhere, unless it was close to her bedtime.  She was a teen when they started having kids, so she babysat them.  Their kids were teens when she had hers, so they babysat.  Her kids were already adults with jobs by the time we came along, so they did minimal babysitting with us, but I've taken care of their kids.  We take care of our own, children and elderly, and nobody says it's not their responsibility.

Oh, and because we're family?  Nobody gets paid.  Especially not a teen who is getting practice for taking care of their own kids later.  We all pitch in.[/quote]

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