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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Shade AF. She's jealous. Hater.[/quote]

Haha, you made me laugh, PP.

Thanks!  :lol:

My dress is not unusual for where I work. I do not expect everyone to agree, though. I wanted to know if you all thought she was being a low-key biotch.[/quote]

Serious question:  why do you dress so slovenly at your office?   [/quote]

There are $400 ripped jeans for sale in the department stores that DCUMmies in the beauty and fashion forum go crazy for. My most fashionable cousin - who is extremely wealthy - wore such jeans to our last Passover seder.[/quote]

And there are certainly $4000 ball gowns for sale that are gorgeous and timeless.  Doesn't make them work appropriate.  Most dress codes aren't just a minimum dollar amount to be spent on each piece of clothing.[/quote]

I was responding to the description of ripped jeans as "slovenly." They are not necessarily slovenly in the way you seem to be suggesting.

I worked in a newsroom for many years where jeans, with holes, wouldn't have been looked at twice. I imagine that OP probably knows her agency's dress code better than anyone else does, including that person in the elevator who decided that she was being paid to police other people's clothing choices.[/quote]

OP herself said the woman works in her [u]same office[/u] and is older than (and likely has been there longer than) OP, so I'm not sure why you believe OP knows the dress code better than she does.  Additionally, every other Fed that has responded to the thread has also expressed that OP was not dressed appropriately, same as the initial coworker.  The only people acting like this is appropriate office attire are stipulating that they work in tech startups on the West Coast, which means they are working from entirely different culture and expectations.

OP is dressed inappropriately and was rude to her coworker.[/quote]

I believe OP is a grownup with a job, who didn't turn to her coworker to ask for advice re: her jeans [u]but rather stated that her outfit was squarely within her understanding of the agency's dress code[/u]. The person in the elevator decided that she had better insight into that dress code than the OP herself. We have no way of knowing if that person is correct or not. For all anyone knows she's one of the countless misguided but stubborn people in the beauty forum advising that any true lady would never wear a skirt without hose.

Anyway, I don't care about this that much. I just really object to the idea that OP is under any obligation to respond to that person in the elevator in any way other than she did. 
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Re-read the OP.  That's not what happened.  She didn't say anything at all to her coworker, she shook her head and walked away.  Nothing about OP's behavior, as described in her initial post or as evidenced in her replies, says "grownup with a job."  Not responding to direct questions from coworkers, dressing inappropriately at work, insisting that her too-casual outfit is "cute," calling anyone who disagrees a "hater"?  No.

OP is not [i]obligated [/i]to behave politely or professionally at work.  But she still should.[/quote]

I guess in my experience it's worse to be a passive-aggressive assh*le than to walk away from a passive aggressive assh*le but YMMV.[/quote]

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