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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]When I left him, I made sure to tell some neighborhood moms she was his mistress. We all live in the same neighborhood and our kids will go to the same elementary school. I wasn't going to let them pretend their relationship started after I left. So now the whole neighborhood knows she is a lying slut and that he is a cheating jerk. There were half a dozen birthday parties she didn't get invited to this year. Whoops.[/quote]

This is different than revenge.  This is truth.  Too often women are expected to keep the secrets of our abuser and the abuse (and believe me, infidelity is abuse).  Expecting women to remain silent about this abuse in order to maintain a good relationship with the co-parent, or to not look "crazy," or to "protect the children" is no different than expecting women to remain silent in the face of other forms of sexual abuse.

In the long run, staying silent about infidelity harms women's health, forces us to do the emotional work of maintaining family relationships and, by creating a false reality, teaches children the wrong message about living honestly and dealing with consequences of behaviour and setting boundaries for our own safety.

Others will criticize you, but I say, good for you for speaking the truth about what happened. [/quote]

I wasn't going to post on this thread, because I certainly don't consider what I did to be revenge, but I told everyone my husband was cheating on me. I didn't do it hysterically, or blast it on FB or anything like that, but when I was with people one-on-one I certainly told them. These were people I was close with and why wouldn't I tell them what hell I was going though? (I was pregnant when I found out.)

Ironically, or not, no one cared. Or at least didn't care enough to cut him off. Everyone says it's so terrible, but the proof is in the pudding. YMMV. [/quote]

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