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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]God, who is this person who also knows about Handa and Dietz!!!  Wonderful!!!  When I had my child in 2014, I was so badly mangled and I felt like the only person, in the subsequent months of trying to put myself back together, who knew who they were.  Thank you for highlighting their work.  To the adamant vaginal birth person who has posted previously: You can sing your song after you have walked in my shoes.  I cannot hold gas, or soft stools.  Constipation pushes my rectum into my vagina.  Evacuation has to happen edigitally because all the hard stool goes to where my levator ani used to be, and guess what, there is no anus there.  My sexual enjoyment - what's that?  I am a giant hole with three prolapsed organs (uterus, bladder and rectum) hanging in it, and no levator on my right side to contract for any sort of pleasure.  Did I forget to tell you about my intussception?  I really notice that when I am constipated, because when I can finally evacuate the stool, part of my colon emerges from my body.  Thankfully it goes back in.  But I dont know if it will when I have menopause someday.  And did I mention my nerve damage (again, sexual enjoyment), enterocele and general daily pelvic pain?  Or what it was like to not be able to life anything over ten pounds after my son, or how it feels inside when I have to tell him i cant carry him or pick him up?  FWIW, arguably the most prominent midwife practicing in the district was in the room when I delivered.  So, fuck your sanctimony.  You try being me first.  For the rest of your fucking life.[/quote]

Holy shit. What a nightmare for you pp! What happened during your vaginal birth? I've never heard anyone have any of those problems you mentioned. I'm so sorry for you. [/quote]

I'm not PP, but I'm not surprised you haven't heard. Women are shamed into not talking about their problems with vaginal birth. By contrast, C-sections are expected to be hard so it's easy to talk about C-section complications.

PP isn't alone or unusual, unfortunately. [/quote]

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