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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm a female runner and have had male and female running buddies.  Running buddies are a weird category of "friends."  On the one hand, many runners will run with whomever is a good fit (same pace as you, you don't annoy each other, easy conversation).  It's no big deal and many running friends never make the cross-over into other aspects of your life.  However, there is something about running that opens up conversations in a way that's hard to explain, especially when you've been running together for a while and tend to do long runs each time.  There is a level of familiarity amongst running buddies that may seem strange to those who don't run.  I've met some of my best friends running and we sorted through all sorts of difficult things while logging miles - divorces, illness, problems at work. But - an important caveat - these running buddies were all female.  My male running buddies stayed running buddies/acquaintances and our conversations were typical water-cooler talk or stuff about our kids.

One aspect of the OP that gave me pause was the "gorgeous" comment. I wouldn't be comfortable with any woman saying that to my DH, regardless of the context, because that's what someone says when they are trying to flirt. Everything else sounds like standard interactions between running buddies - texts about the run, weather, etc. The other issue I see is the frequency: 5-6 days per week with the same person is a LOT.  Most of the runners I know do a combination of solo runs and group/buddy runs.  Sounds like OP's DH does every single run with just this woman.

If it were my DH, I wouldn't necessarily like it and would probably say something to him.

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Another female runner here and could not agree more. The frequency of them running together is suspicious. When I have had running buddies we typically run together 1-2xs a week. The gorgeous comment is super weird as well.

I would also add that my dad was a serious distance runner/former college athlete for decades and to my knowledge never had a female running buddy. He also did not meet with any running buddy that many times a week.

I get that you feel bad saying asking him not to run with her because of the progress he has made with losing weight but if he doesn't have the motivation to keep up with it for his own health but does to spend time with her that's even more of a red flag. Additionally, if you are in the D.C. Area there are many clubs where he can find someone to run with him/group runs  (D.C. Road runners, Montgomery county road runners club, etc). [/quote]

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