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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There may be a big value difference here.  Does he have other rigid gender expectations that make you uncomfortable (like criticizing the way you dress if it's not "feminine" enough; homophobia; comments about boys being "girly")?  
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I'd also be wary about rigidity in general. He should have the self-awareness to know that the decision about how to raise kids is a huge one, and not one you can impose on someone.[/b]

I'd also be worried about magical thinking -- that having a SAHW will cure his childhood by proxy.  [/quote]

Being rigid in general would be a deal breaker for me. I would want to know more about his SAH vision as well as where it comes from.  Is he willing to discuss it more? Will the marriage be an equal partnership if you SAH? In other words what’s in it for you? In all fairness you should each consider the others perspective.  
If he won’t discuss it then the fact that it is closed for discussion is the bigger problem.  Rigidity is bad for marriage. [/quote]

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